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15.12.2016 15:51

Alone but not lonely

Alone, but not lonely

You can’t find places like this by searching from popular tourist attraction websites 😉

I’m not lonely, I just love to be alone. Observing people from little distance.
That’s also how I find best spots to take photos. Not always just listening what others recommend, but also doing own research, following own senses. Searching from websites written by locals, photographers etc.
And sometimes, I might just follow where everyone is going. Or more like where those people looking like locals are going with their cameras.

Observe

That’s also best way I find ideas to write my blog, seeing how people act when they think no one is paying attention.
Don’t take this in a creepy way, because I am not any creepy stalker. It is just part of my personality, to observe and think a lot.
And well, you won’t see me stalking you. I have practiced it my whole life, so I can do it secretly 😉 I think only people who are similar with me, can see what is going on. Sometimes I might seem like I am lost, but I might actually just look around and think where to go next. Which place to see, from where to take photo or just thinking deep thoughts. Other possibility is, that I am lost, but I am too shy to ask directions… 😀

And this is me.

Alone, but not lonely 🙂

People who know me better, also know that I am shy and quiet person. That is just part of me. That is me.
Of course when I get to know people more, I am more social and talkative.

But I have always been that shy girl, who likes to be alone.
Already in primary school one of my teacher gave me lower number in behavior, because I was quiet and didn’t talk in the class. I didn’t always raise my hand to answer, because I was shy, and that wasn’t normal acting for me. Don’t ask me, how that is considered as part of ”bad” behavior.

Sometimes my quietness make certain people think, that something is wrong. I have seen, that somehow it is hard to think, there is people who actually enjoy being alone.

Example

Just during last week one of my teachers wanted to talk with me, because she thought something is wrong with me.
I am not saying, that making sure would harm anyone. I actually appreciate that there is people who care, and ask if everything is okay.
But I think it is also good to start to realize, that people are different.
Class where most of students are talkative, doesn’t mean, that everyone in the school are same. Or even all those talkative persons might not be like that in their normal life.

Being social

I know, especially in tourism industry it is important to be social. But however work life is much different than student life. Life in a workplace is not same as life in a school as student.
I can be social, I know how to be social and there is not any problem for me to be social.
But in the school, I just like to study alone, I am more focused when there are not any distractions around me.

I can also do group projects. No problem at all, usually I even like group projects more than individual. Especially if there is presentation needed. But it means that everyone have to pay attention to the work. I don’t like to tell someone they are doing wrong. Or try to get those ”lazy” students understand how important it is, that they will be present in the classes. I think they should know it by themselves 🙂 It is part of respecting another students.


I know all this might sound strange, but world is full of different people.

In my case, I’ll always have some shyness, and I’ll probably always be that girl who likes to be alone. That girl who doesn’t like to party, but rather explore around, find new places and enjoy life on my own way.

I’ll be that happily, because that is who I am.

 

Kommentit

  • Lasse

    Olen itse ollut nuorempana samalla tavoin ujo, ja olen jossain määrin sellainen vieläkin, joten tämä tekstisi tuntui tutulta.

    Nykyisin liki kaikki pitävät minua erittäin sosiaalisena. Sellainen varmasti jossain määrin jo olenkin. Kuitenkin pidän tosi paljon omasta ajastani, siitä että saan olla yksin, vaikka muut luulevat minun viihtyvän parhaiten porukoissa. Tykkään kyllä olla ihmisten kanssa, mutta olen ihminen, joka tarvitsee sen lisäksi paljon omaa aikaa, jopa yksinäistä aikaa. Kuvailisin itseäni ihmisenä sosiaaliseksi erakoksi. Onneksi olen naimisissa toisen sosiaalisen erakon kanssa, joten molemmat ymmärrämme antaa toisillemme tarpeeksi myös omaa aikaa, jona ajatella, työskennellä ja toteuttaa itseämme.

    Nykyään ihmisten kanssa ollessani monesti peitän sisäisen ujouteni puhumalla. Se on alkanut olla mulle luonteva tapa toimia. Olen jossain vaiheessa nuoruuteni aikana opetellut siihen, ja nykyisin hiljaa oleminen ihmisporukoissa on minulle vaikeampaa. Ennen oli toisinpäin. Jos minulta kysytään, olenko introvertti vai ekstrovertti, minun on vaikea vastata. Olen pohjimmiltani kai introvertti, joka tykkää esittää ekstroverttiä. Toisina päivinä minun ei tarvitse esittää, olen luontaisesti sosiaalinen ja ulospäinsuuntautunut. Toisina taas ”joudun esittämään”, koska haluaisin olla omissa oloissani, vähän ujona ja hiljaisena. Jos kuitenkin olen tämä ujo ja hiljainen, ihmiset alkavat tosiaankin huolehtia, onko minulla kaikki hyvin. He ovat katsos saattaneet oppia tuntemaan minut puheliaana. Introverttien joukoissa saatan olla ”liian ekstrovertti” ja ekstorverttien joukoissa ”liian introvertti”. Tämän ristiriidan kanssa olen onneksi oppinut elämään.

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